Acceptance has its own set of benefits as well as drawbacks, but the benefits outweigh the drawbacks because study and experience show that it brings with it a sense of serenity and the ability to embrace and push through any situation.
My friend asked, “How can one move on from any form of a broken relationship, whether friendships, situationships, or relationships,”. To be honest, I was staring for a long time and didn’t realize it when I said “acceptance.” She then inquired, “How?”
I started by telling her;
Accept that if it was meant to be or if it was meant for you somehow it will find its way back to you.
Accept that healing takes time and you don’t need to rush, just take your time to heal.
Accept that you do not have a right to an apology from the person who has harmed you. So the person may be embarrassed or egoistic or disappointed to apologize, or they may simply not feel like it. Regardless, go on to be at peace with yourself rather than waiting for an apology, which you may or may not receive, and which will keep you stuck.
Accepting that memories will not be erased; they will remain; is entirely up to you. You can choose to let only nice memories cling with you to feel at peace with yourself, or you can choose to let only unpleasant memories stick with you to be stuck hating the person and not be able to move on easily. It is entirely up to you.
Accept that it’s good to cry and feel your emotions, but that you’ll be OK in time.
Accept that instead of shutting everyone out because you’re hurting, you need to be surrounded by true people who genuinely care about you.
Accept that it is unhealthy to question your self-worth and take all the blame for what happened.
Accept that you can channel all of that energy into something beneficial, like work or learning a new skill; this will help you stay distracted while also allowing you to grow as a person.
Accepting that you need to take time off to heal properly may take some time, but it is necessary.
Accept that the person who has hurt you may move on faster than you anticipate while you are still hurting, which may cause you more pain, but fight the impulse to respond and let it get to you. Instead, focus on yourself and be kind to yourself.
Accept that your previous relationship taught you some valuable lessons and that you have a better understanding of what you will tolerate in your next relationship.
Accept that it is okay if you still want to be friends or not, but regardless, it is healthy to take a step back and see if there can still be any form of reconnection, and it is your choice whether or not to reconsider.
Accepting that you will feel manipulated or used, but remaining fixated on that will only make you feel worse and make you want to hate the person, which is pointless but if hating the person helps you better to move on then it’s up to you.
Everyone has various coping mechanisms so far at the end of the day when your expectations are crushed, acceptance helps you find peace, breath, be kind to yourself, and move on easily.
